Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Hot For Teacher

Life is a process of constantly learning.  I am continually reminded of this fact as I grow and evolve.  I feel like I'm always discovering and rediscovering how to love, how to be appreciative, how to listen, and how to express myself.  There are certain factors in our lives - triggers - that force us to re-evaluate who we are. Often times these are attributed to love and loss, money and poverty... You know, all the really important moments that we struggle with from year to year.  Lord knows I've spent plenty of time trying to "find" myself in multiple states, jobs, boyfriends, and vacations.  I suppose even this blog could be defined as a means for me to continue on my journey of self-discovery and emotional competence.

More so than anything else, my marriage has been the thing that has kept me constantly guessing about myself. There's something about being connected to someone for the rest of your life, and making that commitment to him and to yourself that forces you to adopt a perspective which necessitates adaptability in a way that you never thought yourself capable of. No fight will ever be so big that he and I won't work it out, because we've made a promise to each other to stay together and be happy with that decision. Love is not enough to keep a couple together, but it is the key ingredient to making that joined life totally awesome and undeniably worth it.

Marriage is a funny thing in that it forces you to be more introspective, and having a spouse is in some ways like having a mirror that reflects yourself in all of your best and worst ways so that you are made hyper aware of both your good qualities and those which you would rather turn a blind eye to.  This, of course, can be interpreted as a blessing and a curse, although I must say I rather enjoy it.  I will never know myself better than Christopher knows me, and that both horrifies me and makes me extremely grateful that I will have him in my life.

In case you were wondering how my blog got its title, this is it.  Here's to forever.